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    It's no good I have to ask - what did you say then on the forum? Paraphrase to avoid another court case if you like.

    Apart from being nosey it may help rest of us avoid similar. These days the internet not quite so anonymous.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Muffin View Post
    It's no good I have to ask - what did you say then on the forum? Paraphrase to avoid another court case if you like.

    Apart from being nosey it may help rest of us avoid similar. These days the internet not quite so anonymous.
    I'm not prepared to even paraphrase it as it is open to further action if I do repeat it. However I wrote something that I believed to be credible under the circumstances because it came from what I considered to be a reliable source on a private Facebook post but didn't bother to check its validity.
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    Quote Originally Posted by VLAD (the Friendly Vamp) View Post
    Having personally sat in a chair and talked about my life and how I feel - I feel for anyone who has problems with depression and or other mental health issues.

    Males in particular tend to as CB says, bottle it up and keep the stiff upper lip. That's why more males commit suicide than females.

    I found the whole experience quite easy to talk about and she found that the job I did was very stressful and being overworked did not help. I had to explain my feeling after watching a set of loads of explicit child porn evidence that some bloke had on his computer and how it made me feel. I had to record all the actions for the Court files so they can be read out in detail as you cant play the videos in Court.

    That hurt, as being a parent myself.

    Also stuff from the Forces came out as being PTSD and with the stuff above I was keeping it all in and needed an escape valve.

    Afterwards I felt better, It took months of sitting in a chair,but still have days, where I remember what brought it all on and things come back to you.

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    So Vicki is now free.... Wonder if she wants a date ???
    fook dat Vamps...it's mad because people don't realise how much the police have to do....no amount of money can make me watch that filth....I know it was part of your job....but the nightmares I would have !!!
    one of my mate is in Scotland Yard ...and he is well paranoid about things....then he'll tell something about what's just gone on ...and you'll be like ...WTF...glad it's not me....BIG RESPECT to anyone on the force.

    must admit I had a mild dose of depression when my brother decided to slash his wrists....it's just that sense of dread consumes you, it's horrible feeling...my wife helped me though it....

    on the whole tho...I'm quite a happly chap...probaly too happy it'll piss you lot off..lol

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    Lol muffin - thats great.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Muffin View Post
    It's no good I have to ask - what did you say then on the forum? Paraphrase to avoid another court case if you like.

    Apart from being nosey it may help rest of us avoid similar. These days the internet not quite so anonymous.
    In a nutshell, don't say anything in a public forum you cannot defend with evidence, or that you would not want to be attributed to you at some point in the future.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Boxhilljunkie View Post
    fook dat Vamps...it's mad because people don't realise how much the police have to do....no amount of money can make me watch that filth....I know it was part of your job....but the nightmares I would have !!!
    one of my mate is in Scotland Yard ...and he is well paranoid about things....then he'll tell something about what's just gone on ...and you'll be like ...WTF...glad it's not me....BIG RESPECT to anyone on the force.

    must admit I had a mild dose of depression when my brother decided to slash his wrists....it's just that sense of dread consumes you, it's horrible feeling...my wife helped me though it....

    on the whole tho...I'm quite a happly chap...probaly too happy it'll piss you lot off..lol
    Indeed... being in the police would make me lose faith in humanity... big respect to the boys and girls in blue.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Boxhilljunkie View Post
    fook dat Vamps...it's mad because people don't realise how much the police have to do....no amount of money can make me watch that filth....I know it was part of your job....but the nightmares I would have !!!

    must admit I had a mild dose of depression when my brother decided to slash his wrists....it's just that sense of dread consumes you, it's horrible feeling...my wife helped me though it....

    on the whole tho...I'm quite a happly chap...probaly too happy it'll piss you lot off..lol
    I had a big bout of depression when I caught my first wife having an affair with another copper at work. I moved out of my home leaving her there with the kids and then 20 mins after I left he walked in with suitcases.

    3 years of fighting in Court to reverse the divorce as she tried to do me and then It was SO GOOD to win in Court and get my self respect back.

    Funny thing was that the bloke she left me for - married her, then 12 months later walked out on her for someone younger.

    I've been married now to Mrs Vlad for 13 years - we might not be ecstatic about each other ll of the time - but we get on.

    But the whole divorce thing busted me up good as I lost my son and we don't see each other anymore (the last 9 years really).

    Th whole thing sent me over the edge and at times I did not want to be around any more - but thanks to mates at work - I got through it.
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    We all love you too Vamps

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    You sure..... .OK - cheers mate, love you too.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Boxhilljunkie View Post
    fook dat Vamps...it's mad because people don't realise how much the police have to do....no amount of money can make me watch that filth....I know it was part of your job....but the nightmares I would have !!!
    I was thinking just that as well as the PTSD it like going from the frying pan into the fire. And the same thoughts for the firemen who had to attend the Grenfell fire especially that young officer who had to make life or death decisions after not being full trained then have to face a tribunal trying to attribute blame. We are all sometimes put in a situation where we have to make decisions and not wanting to trivialise this but as Dr Who once said, 'sometimes we only have bad decisions we can make but we still have to make a decision'.

    I have to make life and death decisions every day - OK it may only be animals but I still have empathy for them and their owners who often genuinely care more for their pets than their family. I found when I was going through my little breakdown that I was dreading having to work in case I faced with this situation and couldn't make a decision if something went wrong and even began to question my own abilities to do routine stuff.

    Quote Originally Posted by Boxhilljunkie View Post
    must admit I had a mild dose of depression when my brother decided to slash his wrists....it's just that sense of dread consumes you, it's horrible feeling...my wife helped me though it....

    on the whole tho...I'm quite a happly chap...probaly too happy it'll piss you lot off..lol
    I used to have in my head a series of coping strategies in case something like this happened to me. It worked when my parents died and I live in fear of something happening to my daughters but felt I would cope (I've even got a speech written in my head for their funerals - is that weird or not?) and even thought logically when some nutter rang on my daughter's phone and told me if I wanted to see her alive again I had to take pre-determined amount of money to him (in the end she was safe was dealing with it very bravely as I knew she would and although he had been threatening her he'd snatched her phone and run off with it as she was calling the police), but now I'm not so sure.
    It doesn't matter how many times you fall down, its how times many you get back up that count.

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